Being cheerful

Two of my friends recently complimented me that they can always rely on me to make them smile. That's true. Although I do realize the seriousness of situations but i can still find something funny about it. After all, I can not be sad forever.

Sometimes it can be scary to be a cheerful person . People might take your smile for granted. Even if there is a grief inside of you that is completely devouring you. They will know that eventually i will laugh it off. but sometimes you don't want to laugh it off. You want to remember it and cry your heart out until it stops hurting .

Nonetheless I continue to be happy because I know my laughter can make a difference in somebody's life. It is a rare talent, after all!

Coffee Prince

With Coffee Prince begins my love for Korean drama and South Korea in general..

It is the story of a hard-working 24 year old, tomboy Eun Chan who crosses path with a good-looking yet proud rich brat Han Gyul. Han Gyul hires her to spoil his blind dates set up by his grandmother. Only thing is he thinks he is a  man. Later his grandmother forces him to to run a coffee shop where he hires Eun Chan as one of his workers and slowly starts falling for her (or as he thinks, him). Eun Chan wants to tell him that she is a girl but is afraid he will never want to see her again.

This romantic comedy very nicely explores the complexity of human feelings. In the beginning Han Gyul has a 9 year old crush on his cousin's girlfriend Yoo Joo. Yoo Joo dumped Gyul's cousin for another guy and now is back to get together with her ex. But she still hangs out with Gyul,  that gives him hope. On the other hand Gyul's cousin has always loved only one woman, Yoo Joo but is later shaken by Eun Chan. The drama shows that our first crush may not always end up being our first love. There is a lot of difference in liking and actually loving somebody. And it is okay if you have mixed feelings for two individuals at the same time.

Other reason I like the show is because it keeps you entertained throughout. The comedy, the sadness, the romance, makes you want for more. You can't help but wonder if such a pure love even exist? And the best part, the male lead actually looks like a male, so you just can't help but admire him. You wish to get a guy like him, good looking and yet willing to stay away from his girlfriend for two years so that she can pursue her dreams.

Korean movies

So I was really mellow and just wanted to watch something funny.
I stumbled upon this korean movie, Seducing Mr. Perfect, which by the way is available on youtube...

... and it ended up being one of my favourite movies of all time. It is definitely going into my DVD collection someday.

Seducing Mr. Perfect is a romantic comedy in which a kind-hearted and beautiful woman, a believer of true love ends up being a personal assistant for an arrogant, rich, handsome guy for whom love is only a game that can be won by following the rules. So what makes it different from any other arrogant boss and innocent secretary office romance?

Well, there are many reasons:

• First of all, no matter how much the guy bashes out the girl's self respect, you can just not hate him. Because from the first scene itself you know that the guy has a soft inside underneath that harsh exterior. When he takes the girls' photograph and never deletes it, when he offers to buy dinner for her, when he rejects her boxed lunch and yet makes sure that he reaches the bar in time to meet her... He is nice and he likes spending time with the girl and yet he doesn't hesitate to make her feel worse..why? It just makes your curious
• The dialogue delivery between the two. How often do you see the guy talking in English throughout and the girl responding in Korean and yet they have no difficulty in understanding each other.
• Not a single scene made me sad. Even when Mr. Perfect insulted his secretary, I never for once hated his character.
• Their first kiss, you immediately want to kiss somebody. The restlessness the boss feels the morning after while the secretary has already forgotten about the kiss... hilarious!

I think this movie is literally a true romantic comedy. It makes me laugh every time I see it. This is definitely one of the movies that can always lift up my mood.

To write

I haven't posted for a long time. A lot of things were happening and I was busy dealing with them. Now I want to write again, to feel again, to discover myself again.

I started this blog with the intention to write blogposts that attract readers. I realised I was wrong. It is not about pleasing others. It is about pleasing yourself.

I like to write especially since all of my english professors have always complimented me on all my papers. Yet, I never blogged regularly because I feel it will have to make it perfect and I am too lazy to create a perfect blogpost. I do not worry about that anymore.

A friend of mine recently said to me, "Even if for ten minutes, make sure you write everyday."
And I am going to abide by her advice.

After all, one of my goals of life is to publish a book before I die.

People

Yea, that is an interesting topic.

No matter how much we try to comprehend humans, they shall never fail to surprise us.
It is funny how people can think money can buy happiness or rather money can win people's affections.  If a person can be won over by money then that person is not worth your time at all. Even if you think your giving a new phone or some other gift to somebody will win him or her over in all circumstances, you are wrong. You chose to give the gift. The other person did not ask for it and hence, does not owe you anything.

We have all heard of the saying, 'chor ki daari mei tinka'. Tell me what is wrong with a person asking for his own money that the other person owes. Does he need to be in a state of emergency to want his money back? And the worst why are you getting all worked up when I ask for my own money? I do not need to give you a reason about why I need the money. I am doing you a favor by asking you to pay me back in installments rather than ask for the entire amount at once. And you of all people should know that future is very uncertain. No matter how much you plan you never know when you shall have a downtime. What if you are going through such a time when I really need my money? I do not want to be in trouble because of your inability to plan properly. At the end of the day, nobody said that you will take the money and run away. You mentioned it yourself. And it was bound to hurt your ego or you wont have transferred 1/4th of the amount in my bank account within the next three hours.

Then we all know about people who are like agony aunts. They can always come up with the right solutions. But agony aunts can also have problems, especially when it concerns their heart. Who shall they turn to? They might feel that they are able to see everything objectively but let's face it, our mind has a tendency to save us from potential harm. A state of denial is such an example. A state of refusing to accept the niceties of a person who has hurt you to the core is a manner of your unconscious brain to save you from further pain. But you will not understand this angle as long as you are mulling over the problem. It will take time, weeks, months or maybe years, but you will be able to understand that some things just can not be sorted out by black and white. People are grey and there are many shades of grey, so good luck trying to comprehend each and every one of them.

Why are they all so complex? Feelings is the biggest weakness of a human being. Sometimes I wish there was a switch but is being a machine a better option? Even if it is for a while. I study human body and yet I do not understand why we feel. Why it pains when people betray us or disappoint us. Why are we happy when he learn to accept and forgive ourselves? Yes, we have all sorts hormonal disturbances going on in our bodies but  if we find a way to manipulate and control it, I wonder if we shall be able to create a perfect human being. Of course there is no such thing as perfect and I am just talking like a mad scientist from fringe. But maybe someday I will figure out the root of all problems, the reason why we feel, the reason why we are called humans.