Forgiveness

I forgive you. 

Now why is it so difficult?

We have all been hurt in our lives at least once. It can be your parents who criticize your career choice, your friend who divulged your secret to your competitor or your partner who cheated on you. The hurt leaves us feeling angry and vengeful. 

Forgiveness helps us to get a grip on our life and focus on the more positive and happy aspects of it. I would not say that you should forget the wrong done to you but you need to be compassionate towards the person who has hurt you. This does not decrease or justify the wrong that was done. It just helps you to move on with your life while maintaining your peace of mind. It helps you to let go of the resentment and vengeance that leaves you feeling frustrated and miserable. A person who has hurt you is not worthy of the time you spend thinking about him. 

So how do we forgive someone?

It might take time but eventually you are able to forgive if you reflect a little bit.  I have had my share of hurts and I know I have hurt people too. I always imagine myself in their shoes when I need to forgive.  I was a victim once to somebody and by harboring resentment towards that person, I am making myself a victim again. It is better to exempt the person from offending myself any further. After reflection and developing a considerate attitude, a person can be forgiven actively and for good.