Saturday, June 30, 2012

Kids today...

... are very particular.

So, I have a friend who has two boys. Mark, who is almost a year old and Dan, who is 3 years old.

Me (holding Mark in my arms), "Oh, he is such a cutie!"
Dan, "No, he is Mark."
Me, "But he is a cutie."
Dan, "No, his name is Mark."

A few minutes later,

Me to Dan, "Hey, I really like your red boots."
Dan, "These are rain boots."

Point noted Sire!

Sunday, June 3, 2012

Forgiveness


I forgive you. 


Now why is it so difficult?

We have all been hurt in our lives at least once. It can be your parents who criticize your career choice, your friend who divulged your secret to your competitor or your partner who cheated on you. The hurt leaves us feeling angry and vengeful. 

Forgiveness helps us to get a grip on our life and focus on the more positive and happy aspects of it. I would not say that you should forget the wrong done to you but you need to be compassionate towards the person who has hurt you. This does not decrease or justify the wrong that was done. It just helps you to move on with your life while maintaining your peace of mind. It helps you to let go of the resentment and vengeance that leaves you feeling frustrated and miserable. A person who has hurt you is not worthy of the time you spend thinking about him. 

So how do we forgive someone?

It might take time but eventually you are able to forgive if you reflect a little bit.  I have had my share of hurts and I know I have hurt people too. I always imagine myself in their shoes when I need to forgive.  I was a victim once to somebody and by harboring resentment towards that person, I am making myself a victim again. It is better to exempt the person from offending myself any further. After reflection and developing a considerate attitude, a person can be forgiven actively and for good.

Tuesday, May 29, 2012

Today's Inspirational Quote

"I believe that imagination is stronger than knowledge. That myth is more potent than history. That dreams are more powerful than facts. That hope always triumphs over experience. That laughter is the only cure for grief. And I believe that love is stronger than death."

-- Robert Fulghum

Sunday, May 27, 2012

Book Review: The Spirit Catches You And You Fall Down




            The Spirit Catches You and You Fall Down is based on a true incident that explores the cultural clash between a Hmong family and an American medical facility. The conflict occurs over the care of a Hmong baby girl, Lia Lee who was diagnosed with severe epilepsy. Lia’s parents and her doctors both wanted her to recover but a lack of communication and understanding between them led to the struggle. Anne Fadiman uses The Spirit Catches You and You Fall Down to convey the message that no matter how much the Western medicine has advanced, cultural factors are important for diagnosis, treatment and care.
            The Lees were a Hmong family that lived as refugees in Merced, California. They fled from their country, Laos due to warfare and political strains. They survived but half of their kids died during the escape. They also lost their identity as being self-sufficient, respectful and productive farmers and were forced to become dependents on Merced economy. Lia Lee was the 13th child born to mother Foua and father Nao Kao Lee. She was suffering from epilepsy since the age of 3 months old. She was taken to the emergency room at Merced multiple times Due to a language barrier the parents could never communicate the symptoms correctly to the doctors. It was when she was taken into the emergency room during a convulsion that she was correctly diagnosed with epilepsy.
            Lia Lee was prescribed complex medications by the doctors. Her parents found it difficult to comply with the instructions. This resulted in Lia Lee being over-medicated, under-medicated or not medicated at all. Seeing no improvement in Lia Lee’s condition, her parents believed that huge amount of medicines was doing more harm to her than good. For them, “the crisis was the treatment, not the epilepsy” (53). Lia’s condition worsened to such an extent that one of her doctor’s recommended that she should be taken into foster care. While Lia was away, the parents went through a rigorous learning session to be able to give the right medications to their daughter. After they showed ability to comply with the prescription, Lia was returned to them. Despite being given the right medicines, Lia’s seizures did not stop. One afternoon, Lia went into status epilepticus, the situation that was feared by all her doctors in which her seizures continued one after another without any interval of consciousness. The parents believed that the child was returned to them in a “damaged condition” (110). The seizure and the septic shock resulted in Lia’s brain completely losing all its functions. She went into a comatose stage. Her seizures stopped since she was brain dead. Her doctors decided to take her off all life-saving treatments because they knew she was going to die. She had been living in the vegetative state for two years, much to the surprise of the doctors and was also lovingly cared by her parents, when Anne Fadiman first visited them.
            The Spirit Catches You and You Fall Down is a literal translation of a Hmong phrase, quag deb peg. In English, it is translated as epilepsy, a condition well known to every Hmong. The Hmongs receive this condition with both fear and gratitude. The condition is a burden on the individual undergoing the seizures and having hallucinations but the person is blessed spiritually. For the American doctors, diseases are caused due to changes in the normal functioning of the body and epilepsy was due to a malfunctioning in the brain activity. It had nothing to do with the soul.
            This book is an exciting story about the cultural aspect of practicing medicine. Other than this book, Fadiman has authored two essay books only. I would like to read them since I like her writing style. She is very clear in what she conveys that immediately gets into your heart. In Spirit Catches You and You Fall Down, Fadiman gives vivid descriptions of the war situation in Laos that resulted in the Hmongs escaping and transitioning into the Western world. She acts like a cultural broker. She interviewed everyone involved with Lia Lee’s case, listened to their stories, interpreted what they believed in and integrated their interpretations with one common goal, to save Lia Lee.
Despite many clashes of beliefs, Fadiman did a commendable job in presenting the correct viewpoints of both the Hmong parents and the American doctors. For instance, Lia’s parents considered her doctors, Neil Ernst and Peggy Philip guilty of Lia’s status epilepticus condition. It was not because the doctors had prescribed the wrong medications. It was because they went on a vacation and left Lia to be cared by other unskilled doctors. When Neil and Peggy heard this from Fadiman, they were completely shocked. Even when Lia was taken away into foster care, the parents had no clue why they were being separated from their child. They threatened to consider suicide so many times that Fadiman says, “Child Protective Services considered placing the entire family in a psychiatric hospital” (89). This sentence made me laugh as well as cry. The Lees were very loving and caring parents but they were legally declared as “abusive parents” due to their inability to follow the doctor’s instructions. At the end of the day, Fadiman concluded that everyone was striving hard to save Lia Lee. They were fighting from different sides but their ultimate goal was the same.
One of the most powerful incidents described in the book is when the child of Peggy Philip, one of the doctors of Lia Lee, was diagnosed with leukemia. Lia’s mother could identify her pain with that of Peggy’s. They were both hugging and shedding tears over their kids’ ailments despite all cultural barriers. This incident shows the humanitarian side of both the cultures. There are some feelings that are culturally universal. This motherly love surpassed any cultural judgments. With this I believe that Fadiman’s conclusion that the Hmongs are “differently ethical’ is contradictory. She said so because the Hmongs would cheat creatively on the written part of the driver’s test and lie about their age and marital status to gain benefits. This is just a way for the Hmongs to find a place for themselves in a place where they do not even understand the language. Every culture has a set of rights and wrongs but the ultimate cause for it is the human desperation to survive. It should not be considered differently ethical.
Although the book was very sad, I found it an interesting read. I learnt a lot about the Hmong culture. Also, being a pre-medical student, the book compelled me to consider the cultural aspect of medicine, which is usually taken for granted. It is very important for doctors to be sensitive to cultural differences and to try to provide care accordingly. In Lia’s case, a lack of a competent Hmong interpreter was a disadvantage but the Hmongs are so radically different from the Americans that even if a good translator were present, it would be difficult to find appropriate Hmong terms to explain the situations properly. The doctors should have at least tried to acknowledge the concerns of the Hmong parents. Cultural barrier in addition to illiteracy resulted in the parents giving wrong medications to their child. Due to deteriorating condition of Lia, the parents lost faith in the treatment plan. They believed that Lia needed some medications but she also needed chants, amulets and animal sacrifices. But for the doctors, Lia’s parents were the cause of her suffering.
The Spirit Catches You and You Fall Down is not really a “must read” book for premedical/pre-health students since it does not give a deep insight about the life and challenges in a medical school but it does enlist some chilling facts and personal experiences of doctors. It talks about cultural competence which people in the field of health care have to face in their careers. Winner of the National Book Critics Circle Award for Nonfiction, the book is based on well-conducted research about cross-cultural medicine with some very valuable lessons.

Saturday, May 26, 2012

A person's first priority in life should be financial security.

Describe a specific situation in which a person’s first priority in life might not be financial security. Discuss what you think determines whether or not a person’s first priority in life should be financial security.

A person's first priority in life should be financial security. This means that every person should strive to achieve financial security in their lives before giving in to any other pleasures. In today's world, money is an important commodity. No matter how ethical and spiritual a person is, he or she can not survive without money. Money allows us to obtain the basic necessities of life such as food, clothing and shelter. Once the basic needs our fulfilled, we go ahead to buy the things we want for our convenience such as cellular phones, computers, car, and so on. To say that financial security should be a person's number one priority means that the person should be financially stable to care for family and personal health, provide three meals of a day and fulfill their wants for entertainment. It does not mean that a person need to live a very strict life. Going on vacations, eating out is permissible once in a while but it should be within the financial limits of the individual.

There can be times when a person's first priority in life is not financial security. For instance, if a person's family or friend has met with an accident then it is worthwhile to spend money on the person's treatment rather than saving it for future. This is a medical emergency and the money provided can save somebody's life. A person should not worry about future plans such as savings for retirement or for a vacation in Vegas.

So what determines whether or not a person's first priority in life should be financial security or not? This depends on the situation. If there is a medical emergency or a situation where money can help somebody live a healthy and safe life, then money should not be the first priority. Life pleasures like big house or two cars or fancy dresses can wait until other basic necessities and wants have been fulfilled. Ofcourse, the decision can be very subjective. A person can worry about his family and friends but he or she is not obligated to worry about a stranger who has been diagnosed with a life-threatening disease. In other situations, where a person is planning on buying a bigger house or expensive dresses, a person should first consider his or her financial stability before making a decision.